Our son Amar Saint Stephen was such a cute little kid, perfect skin tone and lots of hair. Did I already say that? Oh no that was actually about myself, many posts back! But yes, Amar did have lots of hair and he had a sparkle in his eyes.
In gazing into those eyes, my, my it looked as though they may turn green or blue, I thought. Diana’s eyes held blue with the occasional green sparkle. And perhaps I was searching a little to see well, what I would see. I felt I should do all I could so that his spirit would know how welcomed he was in my heart, in my life.
It might sound like silly wishful thinking but I felt like I got my son back. It was my turn to make a move on the chessboard of life. I felt as though he waited till I was better situated before he would return to me.
My employer always had a taxi pick me up, taking me to work and at shift end, another would bring me home. Maybe once or twice in a work week I was fortunate enough with a shorter shift allowing me to come home in the afternoons.
I might be able to play with and take a nap beside my son. Mainly though it was the evenings when I came in through the door at the end of my work day. Amar was almost always already asleep.
And more often than not, I’d already had my dinner at work. I toiled many hours but it was worth it money-wise, experience in the culinary aspect of things -not that I was training to be a great chef or anything- and of course to maintain the great health insurance.
When Amar cried in the middle of the night, Diana would get up with him. Naturally she breastfed and was not minding this at all. I’m so glad she very willingly agreed saying she wouldn’t have it any other way. She taught me very early that it was smart to take a nap when the baby did.
We were becoming parents in a time where feeding babies with bottles was taken to like wildfire and in truth, it had been popular for quite some time by now.
Credit where it is due; yes it’s convenient so that others can participate if need be and/or if the mother is simply unable to. But for our family, I am pleased we chose and were able to feed the baby the natural way.
Amar was growing stronger and more lovely with each passing day. There was little doubt as to the parents well-being either. No time wasted, not with these wild parents, ha ha! I told Diana, “I am putting in an order for a daughter!”
We both agreed a girl would balance our family. And it didn’t take long for that order to be filled. Diana being most fertile, she became pregnant while Amar was only near three months of age.
We had to make a residential adjustment during this time and ended up in an apartment building at 612 Pico Boulevard, directly across the street from Santa Monica High School. This would be where Amar had his 1st Christmas and five months later, our 2nd child would join the family.
It was 17 days before Amar’s 1st birthday when our second child arrived. It is now the spring of 1962. She landed at six twelve in the evening to be exact and it was the Saturday before Mother’s Day. Is it no surprise then that the moon was aligned with the birth of my daughter; 62% of the moon was illuminated -the temps were in the low 60’s.
We welcomed into this world a little girl, just as we had ordered.
I remember telling Diana that I wouldn’t have to bring her a Mother’s Day gift because she just received a little package wrapped in pink. We were both overjoyed, as was the rest of the family.
Asha Saint Monica was beautiful of course, she’s my daughter! She had big brown eyes, good skin tone, a French looking face (her mother said) and lots of hair, just like her brother. Diana assured me this labor was by far the easier one. We were both glad of that.
During this time, Amar was being pampered in his grandparents’ home while Diana was in the hospital with our daughter and I went to work.