At first as one can imagine, this was most awkward but we were able to push through that stage fairly quickly. We both seem to want the same thing, to make it work.
There was a lot of talk which is a good thing. There were times when only a whole lot of beating around the bush on most topics took place.
Eventually I was able to confirm at least in my own mind, the past actions of my wife were for the most part, the actions of her parents. Only sixteen at the time, remember? She was doing as they were ‘guiding’ her to do.
Our new home was nice, it was spacious, it was in the right neighborhood and it looks like the place came with its own handyman because he was there regularly, painting this and repairing that.
It took us a few days to be rightly settled in; groceries, bedding & linens, pots & pans, like that. Oh yes, most important, must have the mosquito net! That’s just as important as groceries!
And do you know what? For the first time since the wedding, we felt married! We did everything together; shopping for groceries? that was such a joy! Lucky for me Hemma was a very good cook. And she seemed more relaxed.
We were starting to look just like what I thought in my mind a couple ought to be like. What fun these two young people were having!
When I came home in the early evenings, she prepared fresh hot tea for me and after we had enjoyed our tea together, we’d go into the kitchen. We worked together to prepare our evening meal. She would stop for a moment to pour an ice cold glass of beer and we shared that.
After our meal we would settle back in the living room, almost always side by side and listen to an hour or so of the Indian programme on Radio Fiji. This is how we both wanted our life together to be.
Right from the beginning when we had those quiet, private little talks; to be together doing only what we wanted with no one placing their expectations upon us. As husband and wife left to make our own choices, that’s how we both wanted it.
And yes for those of you wondering, we did talk about the loss of our son. I asked many questions and understandably she mostly cried. Well, at least there was some closure on that between this father and mother of a child taken away much too soon.
We began to make plans once again for our future.
About telling Noori of this new development; she was my dear friend after all and as before, she stepped back over to the side-line. She knew I wasn’t really available to be with her.